Marriage Renovation: Evaluating & Rebuilding Your Marital Home

A strong marriage, like a well-built house, requires a solid foundation, maintenance, and sometimes major repairs. This curriculum helps couples evaluate their marriage and provides a renovation plan for continued growth or recovery.

 

10. The Dream Home – Thriving Marriage

Marriage Condition:
✅ Deep emotional and physical intimacy.
✅ Strong communication, trust, and teamwork.
✅ Partners feel loved, supported, and appreciated.
✅ Conflict is handled constructively.
✅ Shared purpose and exciting future plans.

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9. Beautiful House, Well-Maintained – A Strong Marriage

Marriage Condition:
✅ Loving and committed, with minor stressors.
✅ Open communication with a healthy conflict-resolution process.
✅ Deep friendship and shared laughter.
✅ High level of trust and security.​

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8. Solid House, Some Minor Repairs – A Great Marriage with Small Challenges

Marriage Condition:
✅ Overall solid, but occasional unresolved tensions.
✅ Life demands (kids, careers, stress) sometimes pull focus away.
✅ Communication is generally good but could improve.
✅ Love is strong, but romance might feel routine.

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7. Well-Built Home, But Signs of Wear – A Marriage That Needs Some Refreshing

Marriage Condition:
✅ Trust and commitment are intact, but connection feels distant.
✅ Conversations are more functional than emotional.
✅ Unresolved stress (finances, parenting, external pressures).
✅ Some resentment or lack of appreciation creeping in.

 

6. Good Structure, But Needs a Major Interior Remodel – Marriage at a Turning Point

Marriage Condition:
✅ The foundation is still there, but emotional closeness is fading.
✅ Arguments happen more frequently.
✅ One or both partners feel lonely or unfulfilled.
✅ Marriage feels more like a business partnership than a romantic relationship.

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5. House Needs a New Roof & Exterior Work – Marriage is Under Stress

Marriage Condition:
⚠️ Conflict is becoming a recurring issue.
⚠️ Communication is strained, defensive, or distant.
⚠️ Trust is weakening (not necessarily broken, but fragile).
⚠️ One or both partners feel under-appreciated or taken for granted.

 

4. House Showing Deterioration – Marriage is Struggling

Marriage Condition:
⚠️ Frequent misunderstandings and emotional distance.
⚠️ More fighting or complete withdrawal from connection.
⚠️ Lack of intimacy, affection, or appreciation.
⚠️ Feelings of frustration, loneliness, or resentment are growing.

 

3. House is Leaking & Growing Mold – Deep Marital Damage

Marriage Condition:
⚠️ Major emotional wounds (betrayal, dishonesty, broken trust).
⚠️ Communication has become toxic or nonexistent.
⚠️ One or both partners feel deeply unhappy and detached.
⚠️ Possible signs of infidelity, secrecy, or avoidance.

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2. House is Falling Apart – Marriage is on the Brink

Marriage Condition:
🚨 Almost no emotional connection left.
🚨 Trust is shattered, and resentment is high.
🚨 Constant criticism, defensiveness, contempt, or stonewalling.
🚨 Living together feels like coexisting or walking on eggshells.

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1. House is Condemned – Marriage is at Total Breakdown

Marriage Condition:
❌ Complete emotional detachment.
❌ Severe betrayal, abuse, or ongoing toxicity.
❌ Marriage is no longer a safe, loving environment.
❌ One or both partners have checked out or given up.

 

Where is Your Marriage?

What number best describes your relationship?
What steps will you take to strengthen your marriage?
Do you need support, counseling, or guidance?

A great marriage is built, maintained, and sometimes repaired. Whether you’re at level 10, 5, or 2, renovation is possible if both partners are willing to do the work.

 

Choose your number to complete your questionnaire before scheduling counseling!